A Thank You Letter From Xiu

     Xiu is a Christian, but her husband is not. They live in a remote mountainous area, have three daughters, are poor, and have a lot of debt. In March 2014, Xiu realized she was pregnant with another daughter. Her husband wanted a son and told her to abort the baby. After hearing of this, our co-workers were able to dissuade her from having an abortion and then Xiu gave birth to her daughter in September 2014. However, her husband became upset, refused to raise the child, and told Xiu to give their baby away. Again our co-workers immediately rushed to Xiu's home and eventually were able to persuade her husband to keep his daughter. In October, to avoid the family planning committee, forced sterilization, and over quota fines, they moved into the city. Now, our ministry gives this family special monthly grants to finance raising their daughter. Below is a thank you letter written by Xiu:


Praise God,


     I thank God for calling on a sinner like me, someone who never even knew Him. After arriving in Gui Yang and receiving the gospel through Brother Liu and Sister Zhang’s preaching, I accepted Jesus. Barely two weeks after that, my son suddenly became sick (at that time I only had a son and a daughter). We took him to the Gui Yang Medical Center for an examination and the doctor found  that my son was suffering from a brain tumor. I asked the doctor if my son could be cured, and he told me they would have to conduct a surgery to determine whether the tumor was benign or malignant. It was malignant. We stayed in the hospital for a month or so and spent six thousand yuan for on hospital fees. In the end, the doctors told us: “There is no way to treat him anymore. Just take him home and give him whatever he wants to eat.”


After returning home, I could not keep myself from crying every time I saw my son. He asked me: “Mama, why are you crying?” I had no answer for him and could only watch over him for the time being. Just eight months later, my son passed away.


My husband and I sat at home, not knowing what to do, defeated. Our son was gone, our money was gone, and we owed thousands of dollars in debt. Thank God, a few months later the both of us had found jobs to start paying everything. Sometime later my husband said he wanted to have another child, but I already had my tubes tied. However, we were able to have a surgery to reverse it and afterwards we our second daughter. My husband was very happy.


Two years later I became pregnant again and my husband sent me to the hospital for a checkup. When I arrived home he asked me if the baby was a boy or a girl. When I told him that we had a baby girl he was disappointed. I prayed every day for my husband and the baby in my belly, and soon enough we had our third daughter. Then, in another year, I was pregnant again. Same as last time, my husband asked me what gender our baby was, and he was disappointed yet again when I told him it was a girl. He did not want to have this daughter and told me to go get an abortion. I used God’s word to tell him: “We are God’s children, we cannot kill, I cannot do what you are asking me to do.” I persistently prayed every day for my husband, and praise God, I was finally able to give birth peacefully to my baby girl. Yet, two days after giving birth to my youngest daughter, my husband had not even looked at her once, and it was always my mother who took care of her. He was unhappy and ignored her. Distraught, I kept praying to God to give me strength. Then one day he finally looked at her, but it was only to tell me to give her away. I said to him: “Whether it is a boy or a girl, all children are gifts from God, I will never give up my child, you will have to do it yourself.”


I thank God for the Baby Shower Program and for His love that was shown to me through Brother Liu and Sister Zhang, who came to my house to visit and care for my family. I thank God that they shared the gospel with my husband, which moved him deeply, and he gave up the idea of giving our daughter away. Our daughter is now close to both our hearts.


Thank God for being the head of my household and for showing His love to us through the Baby Shower Program. Thank God for the brothers and sisters who, even though they are separated from us by thousands of miles, were moved to help us financially. Thank God for sewing all of our hearts together. His grace is enough and we have a home in Him who gives us eternal life. Amen!



January 18, 2015





All Girls Allowed (http://www.allgirlsallowed.org) was founded by Chai Ling in 2010 with a mission to display the love of Jesus by restoring life, value and dignity to girls and mothers in China and revealing the injustice of the One-Child Policy.  “In Jesus’ Name, Simply Love Her.”


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